bullying ? you must have been no stranger to hear the
word bullying . yes bullying that I think that I know it's an act of violence ,
oppression and intimidation against someone who is weak . bullying has many
kinds that I can know through our words, deeds and coercion . This bullying can
happen at school , home , workplace , and the environment around us . already many
cases - the cases of bullying . Examples of our daily life so as sexual abuse
of school children . in this case most often we hear .
Bullying is a form of aggressive behavior manifested by the manner disrespectful treatment and the use of violence or coercion to affect others , carried out repeatedly or has the potential to recur , and involves an imbalance of strength and / or power . This behavior can include verbal abuse , physical violence or coercion , and may be directed repeatedly towards particular victims , perhaps on the basis of race , religion , gender , sexuality , or ability .
Bullying can occur in any context in which humans interact with each other , such as : school , family , work, home , and environment . Bullying ranges from simple , which is done by individuals . Or more complex , which is carried out by groups , such as the social group or social class , as a result of an imbalance of social power . And even among countries because of the imbalance of power and / or power .
Bullying occurs not because of anger , or because of a conflict that must be resolved . Bullying is more on feeling superior , so that a person has the right to feel hurt , insulted , or control other people who are considered weak , low , worthless , and does not deserve respect . Bullying is a behavior of intolerance towards difference and freedom .
Cases of bullying recently discussed rampant , especially the many cases occur in the world of education, especially high school age children . However , do not rule out bullying will occur at pre-school age children or young children up to the student . Forms of bullying were so many , not only physically but can be in the form of psychic as ridicule or the like . Although merely ridicule , bullying will cause negative effects on psychological development victims. Cases of bullying are rife discussed lately is sexual harassment , especially the victims of such cases are early childhood . One example of cases of sexual abuse that happened early childhood is the case in kindergarten Jakarta International Shool
( JIS ) . After the case revealed in the media , one by one similar case arise and return who are victims of sexual violence are early childhood .
Riauskina , Djuwita , and Soesetio (2001 ) defines school bullying is aggressive behavior of power against students who performed repeatedly by a person / group of students who have the power , on the other students who are weaker with the aim of hurting the person. Then they classify bullying in 5 categories :
1.Direct physical contact
2.Direct verbal contact
3.Nonverbal contact directly
4.Nonverbal indirect contact
5.sexual harassment
6.Cyberbullying
The attitude of a person in the environment could be a sign the person is comfortable with their environment or just feel far from feeling safe and comfortable in that environment. Some things that could be an early indication that the child is experiencing bullying at school possibilities, among others:
1.ifficulty sleeping
2.Bedwetting in bed
3.Complain of headaches or stomach
4.No appetite or vomiting
5.Afraid to go to school
6.ried before or after to school
7.Often go to the infirmary
8.Not interested in social activities that involve other students
9.Often complain of pain before going to school
10.Often complain of pain to his teacher, and the parents want to immediately pick up return
11.Low self-esteem
12.Drastic changes in attitudes, behavior, manner of dress, or habit
13. Blisters or sores child being bullied either physically or mentally typically will experience great trauma and depression that eventually led to mental disorders in the future. The symptoms of mental disorder that usually appears in childhood generally grow into a child prone to anxiety, difficulty concentrating, easily nervous and scared. Signs that occur in children who are victims of bullying:
1.trouble getting along
2.fraid to come to school so often truant
3.missed lessons
4.Have difficulty concentrating follow lessons
5.And impaired physical health
Bullying creates a vicious circle for the victim in their social lives. One of the most common reaction of intimidation that occurs in children is, they would begin acting younger than his age. In an effort to protect themselves from bullying situations, they seemed to be difficult to become an adult. This is interpreted by their friends as "baby". The more children tend to teachers, and when it becomes an adult would expect to be protected, and that has been hard to be pembully; will especially damaging during the pre-teen years, when children try to understand more about how to develop personal relationships with their peers. This could have lifelong consequences on an individual's ability to bond with other people / social.
In the older children and teenagers, the effects of bullying are often more internalized. During the teenage years, young people crave dependency and do not want help. They will, therefore, seek to resolve their own problems. Because of the skill "to overcome" they are not sufficiently developed at this age, then when faced with bullying situations were complicated, they begin to internalize the problem and develop a sense of helplessness. This could lead to depression and anxiety. If left unchecked, this anxiety can even begin to manifest itself into eating disorders, anorexia and bulimia most often, especially on female victims.
Sometimes when young people do not know how to handle the emotions they experienced, they may begin to experience symptoms of psychosomatic; This is the result of emotions embodied in physical condition. Dr. Sansone said that research in the United States and Finland have shown a direct relationship between the children who bullied and increased incidence of headaches, abdominal pain, bedwetting and sleep problems. All these physical manifestations could add an increase in difficulty with social development of their children; which in turn will continue the cycle of bullying. For example, a child who is associated with sleep problems, perhaps he was exhausted at the school and start doing bad things. This could easily be a trigger for bullying incident in the future. In an effort to ease the discomfort of children, parents will usually take drugs only for actual physical illness; while the emotional causes of the remaining unresolved issues.
Intervention is the only method that is proven to reduce bullying problems faced in many countries. Parents and teachers should not underestimate the long-term effects of bullying, which the children thought could survive as a result of bullying. Children and adolescents need help in learning to cope with the complicated emotional areas of bullying.
Technology is a part of their life, and imitate adults is how they learn. They may click on a computer mouse, pressing a number on the phone, and run their fingers over the screen smartphone. These years toddlers and preschoolers learn to socialize through talk and can share their toys with playmates. This is the age at which children learn by hand and using all five senses to learn about the environment around them. Life skills they need to thrive, such as empathy and decision-making should start in their early years. They need to develop the ability to learn about the consequences of behavior .
Pre-teens will find themselves driven rather quickly into the online world. When pre-teens, they watch YouTube, play games, or looking for something on the internet. Many sites that are not appropriate to their age they will find. There are sites that are targeted for children of this age, where they can play some games and chat. They also can start to upload images at this age to a few sites made for pre-teens. Parents should know exactly which sites to children and know exactly what they are uploaded. Children at this age are able to write texts and take photos with their mobile phones. Social networking is something where they can receive a message or write something, and the potential for abuse can begin with this activity.
Pre-teens do not always understand how the behavior of anonymous (strangers) can affect people. They still need a few years before they can fully understand the implications, even if the pre-teen age they know the difference between what is right and wrong.
Businesses
that can be done to address bullying divided into two, namely:
1. Preventive efforts (prevention) The business can be preventive (prevention) but also can make the perpetrators of bullying will not be doing the bullying again to anyone. In this respect the role of parents is very important, because children are usually involved in this kind of problem is they received less attention from their parents and from families who fractured his harmony (broken home).Preventive measures we can do is instill early to children that we are all brothers and sisters should love each other and among others, provide religious values to the child, so the child will think that if harm another person will definitely get old dosa.Orang also need oversee the association of children, so that children are not wrong in the mix and one of the friends, because of the influence of peers is very large in the development of the individual self. In addition parents should also keep an eye on what is watched by a child when watching television, because television is currently showing a soap opera with just a lot of scenes inappropriate for viewing by children, tend to show that free association, a life of luxury, the language usedalso tend Alay, and sometimes a lot of soap operas featuring scenes of children who are often denied the counsel of their parents.
1. Preventive efforts (prevention) The business can be preventive (prevention) but also can make the perpetrators of bullying will not be doing the bullying again to anyone. In this respect the role of parents is very important, because children are usually involved in this kind of problem is they received less attention from their parents and from families who fractured his harmony (broken home).Preventive measures we can do is instill early to children that we are all brothers and sisters should love each other and among others, provide religious values to the child, so the child will think that if harm another person will definitely get old dosa.Orang also need oversee the association of children, so that children are not wrong in the mix and one of the friends, because of the influence of peers is very large in the development of the individual self. In addition parents should also keep an eye on what is watched by a child when watching television, because television is currently showing a soap opera with just a lot of scenes inappropriate for viewing by children, tend to show that free association, a life of luxury, the language usedalso tend Alay, and sometimes a lot of soap operas featuring scenes of children who are often denied the counsel of their parents.
2. While curative
actions to address bullying that has already occurred is to provide treatment
to children is concerned, and for children who are at risk of becoming victims
of bullying, things that need to be considered in order not to become victims
of bullying, among others :
1. Do not bring
expensive items or excessive money
2.Do not be alone,
because bullies will see the child alone as a potential prey
3.Do not be looking for
trouble with bullies, and if caught in situations of bullying
then believe am
left. Not to appear weak and frightened. And must dare to report to a teacher
or parent.
Some
bully (bullies) do so because they do not understand what they are doing is
wrong. And stopped when he learned that his actions harm others. Some others do
it intentionally because it was inspired and mimic what they see at home, the
street, or TV shows / movies. The second group is what is dangerous, because
they feel the aggressive behavior (bullying) they will get what they want,
material, social status, or power. It is common in children or young people.
then we should be able to avoid this bullying.
Hope it is useful ;-)
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